Self-love is an important aspect to your wellbeing. It impact how you view yourself, the decision you make and your relationship with others. You may have grownup in an undesirable situation, and these circumstances can make loving yourself extremely difficult.

Self-love is a serious and sensitive subject. Our posts are for informative purpose only and there’s no intention to service as professional help. If you feel you are struggling, please seek professional help.

1. You hide your true self from others

You change around others and hide certain personalities. This process as known as “masking”. You are afraid to be judged by others and adjust yourself to make-up for it.

2. You overanalyze your own behaviour

Lack of self-love leads you to overanalyze your behaviour and create a mask. You study the people around you so you can properly mimic them. This become problematic when you hyper analyze yourself and changing yourself to become someone else.

3. You have a strong fear of being judged by others

Are always worry about what others think of you? Do you think others are closely observing on what you doing and what you wearing to the point that makes you feel hard to go out in public. These feelings are usually highly irrational and maybe impact your relationship with others.

4. You struggle with your physical & mental self-care

Do you find you are not training your body and your mind as much as you should? Are you skipping meals or overeating? Do you use alcohol or other substances to cope with your feelings? If so, you are taking enough time for yourself and neglecting to building your own happiness.

5. You feel inferior to others

It could be you are insecure about your personality, intelligence or your parents. These insecurities combined with a hyperawareness of others in comparison leaves you harshly judge yourself and try to mask who you are.

6. You are too hard on yourself

You focus on your failure and always think you are not doing enough. It’s like in a constant uphill battle to achieve more without taking a moment to appreciate what you’ve done. You never feel satisfied with what you have.

7. You lack confidence

You struggle to feel your opinions and voice matters? Lack of confidence can leads you to discredit your ideas and keep quiet instead of speaking up. Similar to feel inferior, you feel it’s better not to offer any input out of fear of been rejected.

8. You need excessive affirmation & attention

You need excessive affirmation to make sure you are doing ok, you might have a hard time accepting who you are. This put an extremely drain on relationships. It could emotionally toxic for you and the people around you.

9. You have difficult & unstable relationships

If you lack of self-love, you might have some unique problems in relationships, such as you feel you such others out of your life over the fear of rejection. Or you feel you are the inferior partner in your relationship and you need constant validation. You think your partner is too good for you, and this create an unhealthy dynamic.

10. You settle for less

You settle for less of what you can achieve. Did you give up on your dream and settle for something complete different? This maybe due to your fear of failure or you don’t think you have what it takes and set yourself short to achieve what you truly want.


Self-love is truly important. Life is tough with many ups and downs. It’s important to know things can improve. If you are struggling, it always help to reach out to someone you trust and talk. Or reach out to the right mental health professional and take baby steps to create a better life.

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Little Whale
erotica_peach (Canada)
Age: 21
Gender: Female
This Little Whale will be your new best friend!

Cuddly Buddy Collection has new toys and I am so excited for them! This Little Whale was an amazing experience. I also have the original cuddly bird design which is one of my favourite toys so far. Since I have tried both toys I can make a quick review/comparison of both together.

As someone who enjoys more external/clit stimulation rather than penetrative stimulation with my toys, Little Whale was a perfect mix of vibration, pulsation and licking motion. Cuddly Bird has amazing suction features but I consider that it lacked vibration. Little Whale has amazing vibration power for those who enjoy those features and it also has really good suction power. I absolutely love the fact that you can remove the upper suction "mouth" for anyone who either needs that adjustment or simply wants to enjoy the licking motion more often. I found that the licking motion was a bit fast even at its lowest level and it didn't seem natural to me but I also know this is a personal preference and I know others who enjoy the vibration and faster licking motion toys. This one is perfect for anyone who would like to combine all three aspects. I also use it with my partner during sex and it just adds a lot to it. My partner also enjoys the vibration of it and it enhances the pleasure.

I honestly don't really use the self-warming feature, I am not saying it is not a good feature, but I personally feel better without it as it tends to heat up quite a bit on the "belly" of the whale where I place my hand to hold it.

I think overall it is a beautiful toy and it just has all the different elements that any other person would enjoy. I've been using it for a couple of months now and the quality is really good, as usual. Have you tried it? Let me know what you think? (@erotica_peach)

- Erotica Peach

Cuddly Bird
Morgan (United States)
Age: 28
Gender: Female
Strong toy for a quick O

I got my cuddly buddy about a month ago (I like to get to know my toys before writing a review). I am very happy with it! It's outside is super soft and a little squishy which is so much nicer then hard plastic. I did have a bit of an adjustment period at the beginning because the suction is WAY stronger than my last one. And I mean STRONG! Half the time I don't even have to go past the first setting! I find the vibration part is definitely weaker but it's still nice, especially when you back and forth between suction and vibration.

Punk Rock Leather Choker

The only two difference (or downsides) is less spikes than whats shown and colors are slightly pastel in person rather than vibrant (if you are picky with what you purchase), other then that you are getting exactly whats in the pictures and they package it well making sure that it keeps its shape! (The second and third ones are to show how big and small it can be)

Punk Rock Leather Choker

Punk Rock Leather Choker

Cuddly Bird
Jennis (United States)
Age: 30
Gender: Female
Better than I expect!

The package actually arrived earlier than expected. I was so happy I ordered before the Christmas traffic jam. The toy has a very smooth body and the size fits my hand perfectly. I have to admit it was my first time trying this kind of sonic pulsation and IT IS THE BEST ORGASM I EVER HAD!! Put a towel underneath, my friendly reminder. Highly recommend!!!